*Sigh.... My Herd-Bound Horse. - Barnmice Equestrian Social Community2024-03-29T09:01:04Zhttp://www.barnmice.com/forum/topics/sigh-my-herdbound-horse?commentId=1773158%3AComment%3A321476&x=1&feed=yes&xn_auth=noJocelyn, Before you try the M…tag:www.barnmice.com,2011-01-15:1773158:Comment:3214762011-01-15T07:12:52.636ZShirleyhttp://www.barnmice.com/profile/Shirley
<p>Jocelyn, Before you try the MOnty Roberts "join-Up" please look at the other comments on here about that method. There is a lot of good thoughts of pros and cons on this subject. Do your homework before exposing your horse.</p>
<p>I agree with what others have said here that it takes time to bond with your horse. I personally think it is very important to not ever be mean with them. Sometimes you have to discipline them to keep both of you safe but try to always do so in a fair way &…</p>
<p>Jocelyn, Before you try the MOnty Roberts "join-Up" please look at the other comments on here about that method. There is a lot of good thoughts of pros and cons on this subject. Do your homework before exposing your horse.</p>
<p>I agree with what others have said here that it takes time to bond with your horse. I personally think it is very important to not ever be mean with them. Sometimes you have to discipline them to keep both of you safe but try to always do so in a fair way & avoid potential bad situations so you can establish a good relationship and grow in your partnership. Baby steps and taking the time it takes will help you to find success. I think it is helpful to spend time with them just being together...spend some time in the pasture with him, mosey somewhere close where u can allow him to graze, some of my friends sit and drink their morning coffee and maybe read a book for a while with their horse. Not everyone can do that but you might be able to do something similar that fits into your schedule.</p>
<p>Any good friendship takes lots of time and effort. Our horse friendships aren't much different.</p> Is that the photo of you two?…tag:www.barnmice.com,2011-01-08:1773158:Comment:3193022011-01-08T18:08:25.065ZJennifer Lammhttp://www.barnmice.com/profile/JenniferLamm
Is that the photo of you two? What a pretty pair you are...... she seems very sweet and willing..... from what we have learned in the body language thread that I told you about...
Is that the photo of you two? What a pretty pair you are...... she seems very sweet and willing..... from what we have learned in the body language thread that I told you about... That's great! =D
Thanks so…tag:www.barnmice.com,2011-01-08:1773158:Comment:3189232011-01-08T04:13:30.262ZJocelynhttp://www.barnmice.com/profile/Jocelyn
<p>That's great! =D</p>
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<p>Thanks so much for the reply!!</p>
<p>That's great! =D</p>
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<p>Thanks so much for the reply!!</p> Dear Jocelyn: Hi..... Congra…tag:www.barnmice.com,2011-01-08:1773158:Comment:3188842011-01-08T00:38:46.533ZJennifer Lammhttp://www.barnmice.com/profile/JenniferLamm
Dear Jocelyn: Hi..... Congratulations on your new horse..... there are many conversations, in fact one on here about if join up is good for a horse or not..... and even what that is, but I am really happy that you are at least trying it..... bonding with a horse can take a long long time... my horse Oliver had never been around other horses before and although he grew up with me now for 5 years, he was very curious about new horses when I started boarding some at my place..... my point is that…
Dear Jocelyn: Hi..... Congratulations on your new horse..... there are many conversations, in fact one on here about if join up is good for a horse or not..... and even what that is, but I am really happy that you are at least trying it..... bonding with a horse can take a long long time... my horse Oliver had never been around other horses before and although he grew up with me now for 5 years, he was very curious about new horses when I started boarding some at my place..... my point is that I practiced and practiced with him and now last week, he was in with a mare, he got into her stall when someone left her door open and I'll be darned if I didn't just call his name and ask him to come to me and he did... he left her..... it can happen, so don't you give up... she'll be in your pocket before you know it.... I truly believe in long term relationships with horses.... the joining up conversations are under a community called "body Language".... it's a bit back and forth.... I do think Joining Up is where it's at, but mostly, just spending time with her..... :) they spend more time with their horsey friends than they do with us so it seems natural that they would prefer to be with their friends than their teacher.... :) Thanks, I'll be doing a join-…tag:www.barnmice.com,2011-01-06:1773158:Comment:3184372011-01-06T22:32:44.504ZJocelynhttp://www.barnmice.com/profile/Jocelyn
<p>Thanks, I'll be doing a join-up again on Saturday and Sunday!! I'll be persisting for all the signs too!!! =D</p>
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<p>I went to groom her last night, and she was SUCH a different Horse, it was great!!</p>
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<p>Thanks... I will.</p>
<p>Thanks, I'll be doing a join-up again on Saturday and Sunday!! I'll be persisting for all the signs too!!! =D</p>
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<p>I went to groom her last night, and she was SUCH a different Horse, it was great!!</p>
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<p>Thanks... I will.</p> Jocelyn -
That is fantastic…tag:www.barnmice.com,2011-01-04:1773158:Comment:3177242011-01-04T22:49:46.825ZAshleyhttp://www.barnmice.com/profile/AshleyBanks
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<p>That is fantastic! I'm glad you had a positive turnout with this :) There's always room for improvement but it sounds like you've got a start.</p>
<p>See if you can try join-up again, and this time (if the weather conditions are permitting) try to push her away until she gives you the cues you need. As Monty says, "if you're going to go away, don't go away a little, go away a lot!" - Try to keep her going until she gives you all the signs (ear locked on, lowering…</p>
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<p>That is fantastic! I'm glad you had a positive turnout with this :) There's always room for improvement but it sounds like you've got a start.</p>
<p>See if you can try join-up again, and this time (if the weather conditions are permitting) try to push her away until she gives you the cues you need. As Monty says, "if you're going to go away, don't go away a little, go away a lot!" - Try to keep her going until she gives you all the signs (ear locked on, lowering head, chewing/licking, and eventually making smaller circles meaning she wants to be close to you and shes testing you out). If you can get these things from her and then get a join-up and a follow-up, your connection with her is bound to increase tenfold.</p>
<p>I'm so glad that you've had a positive experience with this on your first try. I've heard quite a few people have bad experiences (can't get a join-up/follow-up, can't get any signs at all, etc etc) so it's nice to see you ended up happy and your mare is content.</p>
<p>Keep us posted, please! :)</p>
<p>Ash</p> Keeping you all updated:
I…tag:www.barnmice.com,2011-01-04:1773158:Comment:3177112011-01-04T21:56:31.507ZJocelynhttp://www.barnmice.com/profile/Jocelyn
<p>Keeping you all updated:</p>
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<p>I tried a Join-Up on Sunday, and even though it was my first time, It <em>SO</em> worked!</p>
<p>I didn`t get all of the signs (inside ear locked on you, lowered head, chewing), but once I decided to finnish I lowered my eyes, and she came to the middle with me, and then followed me around a little. It was great!</p>
<p>I then lead her back to the barn, <em>toward the herd</em>, and she had her head lowered, and didn`t call. Cool as a…</p>
<p>Keeping you all updated:</p>
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<p>I tried a Join-Up on Sunday, and even though it was my first time, It <em>SO</em> worked!</p>
<p>I didn`t get all of the signs (inside ear locked on you, lowered head, chewing), but once I decided to finnish I lowered my eyes, and she came to the middle with me, and then followed me around a little. It was great!</p>
<p>I then lead her back to the barn, <em>toward the herd</em>, and she had her head lowered, and didn`t call. Cool as a cucumber! =D</p>
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<p>Thanks for all of your help, suggestions, and support! I still have some work to do, but this really helped!</p>
<p>Thanks again!!!</p> Thanks for your reassurence!…tag:www.barnmice.com,2010-12-31:1773158:Comment:3161362010-12-31T23:08:16.275ZJocelynhttp://www.barnmice.com/profile/Jocelyn
<p>Thanks for your reassurence!</p>
<p>I'll check out that blog right now!</p>
<p>Thanks for your reassurence!</p>
<p>I'll check out that blog right now!</p> That's definitly something to…tag:www.barnmice.com,2010-12-31:1773158:Comment:3161352010-12-31T23:07:27.573ZJocelynhttp://www.barnmice.com/profile/Jocelyn
<p>That's definitly something to think about....</p>
<p>I didn't consider that before because she calls and tries to swing around and see if anyones there.</p>
<p>I'll try seeing what she does if I went over her with the soft brush first.</p>
<p>Thanks.</p>
<p>That's definitly something to think about....</p>
<p>I didn't consider that before because she calls and tries to swing around and see if anyones there.</p>
<p>I'll try seeing what she does if I went over her with the soft brush first.</p>
<p>Thanks.</p> Could your mare have REALLY s…tag:www.barnmice.com,2010-12-31:1773158:Comment:3161102010-12-31T18:55:25.115ZJackie Cochranhttp://www.barnmice.com/profile/JackieCochran
<p>Could your mare have REALLY sensitive skin? Some Arabs I owned had been really antsy when I did the regular strength grooming and only calmed down when I switched to the ligtest pressure I could use and still get them clean enough to ride. It really helped if I groomed everyday, gently. If the bristles on your brush are really stiff you may want to try another softer brush.</p>
<p>Often I would go out to my horses in the pasture and groom them there in the middle of the field rather than…</p>
<p>Could your mare have REALLY sensitive skin? Some Arabs I owned had been really antsy when I did the regular strength grooming and only calmed down when I switched to the ligtest pressure I could use and still get them clean enough to ride. It really helped if I groomed everyday, gently. If the bristles on your brush are really stiff you may want to try another softer brush.</p>
<p>Often I would go out to my horses in the pasture and groom them there in the middle of the field rather than bringing them in. In fact I even got them so I could trim their feet out in the pasture with just a halter on with a dangling lead rope. Working on this could pay off for you in the long run. </p>
<p>Or she may have some type of skin condition that makes it more sensitive to pressure and brushing.</p>
<p>I think Carolyn Resnick had a blog mostly on teaching the horse to stand in one position and how it can help.</p>