Oliver belongs to you, and you have a right to have the type of relationship you want with him. Horses, I believe, are more resilient than we give them credit for. They can adapt very well to different styles of riding and people, and in my experience, trying new things is not a bad idea. If what you do "undos" what your trainer has done in the short amount of time you have between lessons, then you might want to really take a look at whether your trainer is right for you and your horse.
Cool.... :) Thanks for the input.... I agree, just hadn't ever asked the question before.... Oliver is my horse, but my trainer gave him to me so I am respectful of his relationship too and my horse loves him loves him loves him... :)
I hadn't thought of that, but your point is probably one of the most important aspects of good training. Trying to fix everything at once gets you nowhere. Working on one thing at a time is a more solid way to go.
You brought up a point that I think is probably one of the most important aspects of training. Does the trainer have the ability to look at a whole picture, and break it down into simple parts for correction? You're right-the student will learn a lot more if the trainer can do that. Thanks for the thought!