After some years into my marriage, I made a phone call to three other Horsewomen I knew that would change my marriage forever.
The phone call went something like this. "I want to start a prayer group to pray for my husband,
otherwise I am going to file for a divorce."
To my surprise, the other three women instantly agreed saying almost the same thing about the Cowboys in their lives.
Within a week, we meet and one of the wives had picked out a book that we might enjoy reading. It was an older book that was out of print and it was hard to find. The book was "How to be the wife of a happy husband". There was also a counterpart to the book, well you guess it, How to be the husband of a happy wife.
WARNING:: Do not read either of these books unless you are ready to change the person within.
By the time I got to the end of the first chapter, I was in tears knowing just how bad of an ass I had been to my husband. I had no idea that some of the things I was doing to him in the words of the book "Was castrating him!
I had married a a great man, who had proven to me many times over that he would stand his ground, no matter what winds blow our way, and protect and provide for his family. I just had forgot about all those moments as the years had moved forward in our marriage.
What I learned from that book was to take responsibility for my part in our marriage, both the good and the bad. What I learned even more is the fact that it was not the marriage that I was unhappy with, but myself and my own life.
At the time, we had money problems, kid problems, horse problems, and both of us had job problems. How easy I found it to blame the one person the closest to me, my Cowboy.
I spent more than a few nights crying reading that book. Even more so, at the prayer group, we spent more time praying for change within ourselves, than we ever did for our husbands. That book, made me grow-up and become a partner to one of the best Cowboy I ever had the privilege to know.
We spent another 10 years together before he became sick with terminal cancer. I often ask myself, "what if". What if I had never read that crazy book. I think that I would have missed some of the best years of my life.
It is easy, during these trying times, to forget what a blessing we can be as the Cowboy's wife. We, as the female around the ranch can be such a blessing sometimes by saying nothing. I recommend instead of anger or a fight, grab your cowboy, your favorite horse, and go for a ride. Then wait. Wait for your heart to open and remember that your Cowboy hurts too, even if he will never tell you that. Here is my guarantee. If you open your heart up and forget about the ego trying to make someone right and someone wrong, you will find the love all over again.
Sometimes. I think I would trade my very soul for one less fight for one more ride together. Can you image, if I had started writing Daily Oats, when my husband was alive? I can see us both heading to the barn, letting our more whinys than all of the horses put together.
Today, let the whiny be for someone you love. Perhaps, someone you need to forgive. Remember this, if there is someone in your life that you need to forgive, it is usually something within ourselves that we need to forgive first. Don't wait, this life does end, so make all our ending the best ones you can imagine.
Charlie, he is a morning whiny, sweetie, just for you. The biggest one I have got yet.
I left out the names of the other Cowboys wives, because I know that at least one of them reads Daily Oats. I am hoping she will say hi. (hay, Terry, I hope you tell them what you learned)
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