As I travel the world working with people and horses there are significant cultural differences between the various countries. However, it is always true that wherever I go - people are people and horses are horses. But then again there is the very real challenge of how often the time needed for translation of verbal languages takes us “out of the moment” with the horses.
Of course, that delay between a rider hearing what I have to say - and then translating my English into their own language - and then applying what was said - will often result in the rider being “too late” because now the horse is doing something completely different. So, sometimes verbal translations can be limiting when trying to convey a message of timing and feel.
For instance, I often see students looking at me with that “Deer in the headlights” look of confusion when I say to them “you don’t tell a horse where to go by pulling on the reins in the direction you want to go – you tell a horse where to go by using your legs and reins to block off the directions that you don’t want to go.” So when words get in the way I find that the best way to help someone understand what feel with a horse is all about is to have them play the role of being the horse. And my favourite way to do this is to ground drive people like a horse.
So I ask for 4 volunteers to come up to “be a horse”. As you can see by this photo taken from a recent clinic in Holland, I have the 4 participants represeant the 4 stages of a horse. But I don’t tell them they are a horse – I tell them they are to “be the river”.
As I ask the participants to put their hands on top of the shoulders of the person in front of them I give them some very simple instruction. First, close your eyes. You do not know where you are going – but like water you will follow the path of least resistance. The long lines running down the sides of your body are like the banks of the river. If you feel an opening somewhere let your body flow or spill into it – but where you feel a boundary or blocking energy do not push through it – try to go around it looking for a path of less resistance.
The person in front – in this case the tallest person, a man by the name of Stijn, is the head of the horse. Stijn is holding the driving lines in his hands the same way a horse has a bit in its mouth. I have asked the person in back, Helene, who represents the hindquarters of the horse, to move forward. As Helene moves forward she pushes into Doreen who represents the barrel of the horse moving forward into Laura who represents the shoulders/front legs of the horse who then moves forward into Stijn. Like water moving forward as a river that starts in the hindquarters the water energy moves forward through the body of the horse into Stijn as the head of the horse.
As Stijn is pushed forward by the 3 women behind him (how appropriate is that!?) he feels his hands “plug in” to the driving lines held in my hands. We are ALL connected as ONE moving flow of energy.
If you look closely at the photo you’ll notice that I have moved my left leg and my left shoulder forward just a little. Now look at each person who represents the moving parts of the horse and you’ll notice that despite having their eyes closed they are also all moving their left legs and shoulders forward in unison. Once we have a horse forward into our hands then we do not need to pull where we want to go – we simply release some of the blocking energy of where not to go. As I have released my left leg and shoulder forward this “give” or release is rippling forward through my horse. All 4 of these people have their eyes closed and they are simply responding to what they feel as blocking energy of where not to go and drawing energy of where they are being released to go.
Of course, if you’re reading these words and struggling to understand this concept of how your horse moves like water in a river then perhaps you should gather some friends and try this exercise in feel. Your friends can tell you the difference between what they feel against their bodies and in their hands as blocking energy instead of pulling and they can help you find your way to telling the river in your horse where to go with boundaries of where not to go so that we can all learn to be “light” with our horses.
Until next time, may the horse be with you and may the river run through you!