I am new to the group, recently turned 40 so was excited to see this group.
I have ridden all my life, always had horses. Family very horse oriented. Even when I was at college, the only I time I did not have a horse of my own, I worked at an equestrian center. I do well with hot, difficult horses. In fact I enjoy them thus my newest jumper I got after he had been off the track for just 4 months. We are learning a lot together and I love his energy although his brain can freeze up just before a show but we are learning what to do before we go into that jumper ring!
With that said, I also have my draft cross that I started riding last year. I must say that she is a completely different personality. Not much go, no forward. Rather, would prefer to ignore my requests for forward, until the cat walks past the arena, then she is more that willing to have some go-go in the opposite direction.
What I am finding now is that I really do not want to ride the horses with no forward or who sort of care less about the job at hand. That just does not do it for me. I prefer go-go and have to ask to slow, rather than this ' Do you really want me to move' attitude. If it was 10 years ago, I would have kept up the fight to get drafty mare to improve but today, just do not feel like making the effort when I have 3 other horses that have plenty of go and want to do something. The drafty mare was a rescue (PMU foal) and she is lots of fun to do ground work with. Very responsive then but a cow to ride. Thus just do not want to ride her ( no worries, she has a long term home even if we never make it to the dressage ring).
Have others reached this point as you have become older and wiser? Perfer ride the ones who are willing to learn even if they have explosive and overly joyful moments, rather that constantly push the horse that would rather stay in the barn?
Although i will pretty much ride anything iv noticed i have gotten wiser and i suppose calmer in myself.......i dont mean old and boring though...........when i was young i would ride the nutters the speed freaks ,the unschooled,the ones one step away from the meat man because they were miss understood or previously miss treated,..........i think you all know what im saying ..
when i rode for many years it had to be fast ,slow,or both ........schooled or unschooled i would ride and work with them all.
i had fun and brought up some amazing horses which i wish i could clone today.
however as iv grown a little older iv noticed although iv still got my nerve and gusto..i do prefere to ride an active horse but a safer horse .one thats not going to rear or do handstands at the wrong moment .......i prefere very forward going but saying that i dont at all mind to ride the ones that plod along like tomorrow will do ...i much prefere to see where i am riding and look at the countryside these days unlike when i was a little younger and i only ever saw it in a flash whilst charging past .........iv had horses for near on 30 years and ridden the same places 30 yrs and the past few yrs iv found myself saying.ooo i never saw that b4 or as that always been there?...i guess at different parts of life u appreate different things and it doesnt make you less of a horsewoman/man ...it just means you have changed ......im only just 40 and because i rode these nutty horses when i was younger iv been on the deck many times which is fine .........................until you get older and then you realise things start to hurt from way back when you were young...........i have a really tight hip joint and putting my leg forward over the saddleflaps to tighten the girth ( english saddle)is almost impossible to do now which frustrates me no end as im only 40 not 95 !! and my mind cant seem to accept this . but we must realise these things happen .....to the lucky few its not untill they are older but to the unlucky its around 40s ...........i think young and i ride young,........until i get home and pay the price with a hot bubble bath and a tube of deep heat for the joints lol.....