A) Thanks so kindly for reading and responding, and:
B) I'm sure something helpful is on here somewhere already, but I can't find it--Sorry!!
My Great Aunt gave us her 2 Rocky Mountain Pleasure horses (mares) about a month ago--we named the red girl Donoma and the bay girl Kai. They were never mishandled or threatened before. They were both very sweet and LOVED people before, but when they were trailered here, Donoma changed. She was the "leading lady" and LOOOOVED people before; now, she's the less dominant of the 2, and is positively NOT allowing us to touch her without jerking her head back so hard her neck snaps! It's like she thinks we're going to hurt her, which we would never do! She won't even let us near her STILL.. I think we're being "allowed" to get closer to her, but touching is still out of the question.. I DO NOT make eye contact with her and I haven't tried to force my attention on to her. I've been as patient as possible, spoken softly, sang softly to her, and all..
We have some reasons to believe she was mishandled, but I suppose my questions are this:
1) Would being abused or mistreated by one person, one time be enough to change her in such a dramatic way?
2) Any pointers on getting her to trust us and let us near her, and bonding?
I do not have a round-pen and I've heard of join-up but she prefers to stay away from us.. She'll sometimes get curiuos and come up to us, but won't stay long at all..
Sorry if my details are sadly lacking.. I have to take off for now, but I'm so grateful to have found this site.. Seems to have tons of folks who are of the same mindset I am with training (which I'd also love advice on!!!)
THANK YOU SO MUCH--Can't wait to read replies!!