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Comment by Cindy Jeffery on May 3, 2009 at 11:51pm

Thank you all for your kind thoughts :-) I encourage you all to continue with perseverance on this road with our four legged friends who at times need us so desperately as we need them for well being and companionship. Yes we need people too but like someone else said animals don't judge us they accept us unconditionally.

Comment by Catherin McMillan on May 3, 2009 at 6:46pm

I agree 100% you deserve a pat on the back for carrying on through all of this. Horses and dogs arent judgemental like people so dont feel bad about how you felt. when your mum passed away. not saying that she was judgemental just that we have different connection to our animals that sometimes is stronger than our human kind.

Comment by Jenny Hiscox on May 3, 2009 at 8:09am

Congratulations for having the strength to carry on through all of that! And I don't think you're cold-hearted for feeling that way; sometimes horses and dogs are a whole lot kinder, and give a lot more back than some people. I am missing my dog and my horse more right now (having been in exile in Mexico since February, and my dog dying in March) than I could imagine still missing any person.

Comment by Cindy Jeffery on May 3, 2009 at 2:05am

I have struggle too over the years with my husband and my oldest daughter telling me, impressing silently upon me to sell the horses because of lack of funds, too much work, selfishness on my part, the list goes on. But I have stuck with them. We started out breeding morgans for 18 years and my husband complained the whole time till finally I sold our last stallion and gelded the colts. That wasn't enough, he still wanted me to sell more horses and since I was feeling the strain of the work taking care of 9 horses mares, geldings, colts because no one helped with chores unless I was going to be out of town, I am the trainer, the exerciser, stable manager, fence fixer, arena leveler, trail boss, etc So, feeling very tired and seeing that 3 horses less would help I gave my registered morgan broodmares away. My husband didn't know what hit him, neither did I because I went into a downward spiral of depression. How much of this was due to the mares leaving? or How much due to my mom's death, my dog's death? For me (maybe I'm a cold hearted b**ch) but the animals leaving affected me more than my mom's death. For the next 2 years I lost my energy, my light and being a woman of faith I clung to God. I saw the bottom for the second time in my life, it was like I was in this hole with other people and looking out through pin hole. I wasn't terribly lonely just happy to have some peace to sort out how I was going to carry on. The remaining horses saved me as I realized this 255 acres we live on could be a fantastic place to share with other people who enjoy horse and trail riding. I new that my husband would come on board if there was more income as opposed to outflow or at the very least the horse would be paying for themselves. For the past 2 years that's what they have been doing and they are all still with me, there are no more complaints, no more asking to sell horses, although I get really guilty when bills pour in and some aren't paid on time. My husband has even expressed mild support, telling me to go riding when I'm caught in S.A.D. syndrome. But that just makes me work harder. But at 58, and a lot creaky I have to admit there have been times when I would like to pass it on to someone else.

Comment by Jenny Hiscox on May 2, 2009 at 6:43pm

I spent 13 years married to a man that would never tolerate me having a horse. He would have begrudged me not only the money, but the time and the attention as well. I think that's why I've stayed single the last 14 years since my divorce. The kind of men I tend to meet see a horse as competition for my time and attention.

Comment by Eileen on May 2, 2009 at 6:28pm

I have ridden since I was a kid, just kickin' around any old trail around the farm that I could find. I never quit actually, just broadened the areas that I rode in. I have never quit the horses, have always had at least one or two on the farm. Now that I am officially a senior citizen and am still riding, and trucking all over the continent hauling my horse into the most remote places, I have never ever had anyone tell me that I should grow up, or quit while I was ahead, or I should stay home, or that I should sell my horses and my trailer, and my farm and on and on...course, I am not married so that may have something to do with no one telling me what I should do. lol

Comment by Shirley on May 2, 2009 at 4:59pm

I have never had anyone suggest I quit riding. I started back up at 50 and had not ridden in 30 years. Everyone said to keep it up because it was sooo good for me. Many people made the comment that I just light up when I talk horses. I can not imagine NOT being around horses again.

Comment by Jenny Hiscox on May 2, 2009 at 4:49pm

Kerri, that sounds absolutely like heaven to me!

Comment by Kerri Morden-Marsolais on May 2, 2009 at 4:26pm

We were thinking of going to the cabins where you can also have a little barn as well....do you know if the cabins are within riding distance of the trails or do you have to trailer the horses there....I'd rather be right at the trails and ride from the cabin....then ride back for lunch etc.....

Comment by Margaret H. Ostrowski on May 2, 2009 at 4:24pm

Yes, my husband is pushing me to sell my horse because of financial problems --- which were mainly caused by his lack of foresight.....we'll see who wins this one.....round two...

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